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Responding to the Sandy Hook Tragedy: Help for Parents
As parents, Friday’s events at Sandy Hook Elementary have affected us deeply. We are grieving both for the lives lost and the survivors. We grapple with whether, when and how to tell our children about it, and wonder why and how a thing like this could happen. Many of us want to help – even in some small way – and wish that we could ease the anguish of the families in the Newtown community. We are looking for a way forward.
For resources addressing the question of telling our children, the desire to do something – anything – to help, and ways to move forward, please read on.
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Having a Conversation (or not)
When we got an email from our kids’ school last night telling us how they planned to address Friday’s tragedy, I thought, “Oh, no. Now we have to tell the kids.” My husband and I talked about it for a long time. We had the option of sending our kids to school a little later this morning, thereby circumventing any class discussion about Friday’s events. We considered taking that path, but what about all the other kids? How many of them know something, and would they be talking about it at school? We wanted to be the ones our kids heard the news from, but really, we didn’t want to tell them. We even considered (briefly) keeping them home all week.
Ultimately, we decided to tell our older child what would be discussed in school (they won’t be giving any details, and are actively discouraging the children from having conversations about it with each other). We opened the door for her to ask questions during our conversation and at any point in the future.
If you, too, are still struggling with the issue of telling (or not telling) your children about the tragedy in Newtown, these three posts offer insight and food for thought:
- From The Motherlode: How Not to Talk With Children About the Sandy Hook Shooting.
- From Betsy Brown Braun, Child Development and Behavior Specialist, Parent Educator, and best-selling author: Talking to Kids (or not) About What Happened in Connecticut.
- From the blog Rage Against the Minivan by Kristin, a Family and Marriage Therapist: five things to consider before talking to your kids about today's tragedy.
If you decide to talk with your kids, or if your family is more directly affected by the tragedy, here are some very good resources:
- The National Children's Book and Literacy Alliance: Helping Kids Cope With Tragic National News.
- American Psychological Association: Talking With Your Kids About the Recent Spate of School Shootings.
- Child Development Institute: How To Talk To Kids About Tragedies In The Media.
- Galleycat: Library Books to Help Kids Talk about the Newtown Tragedy.
Moving Forward
If you're looking for ways to move forward, honor the memory of those lost, and make a difference, here are some ideas:
- Read Kristen Chase’s Motherhood Uncensored post about anxiety and having more moments of joy with our kids: The Risk of Living is Dying.
- Participate in vigils. For upcoming vigils in Connecticut, visit our sister site, Mommy Poppins CT.
- Send letters of support to families of the victims for Christmas. Email letters to sandyhookchristmas@gmail.com.
- Find ways to help the families of the victims with the help of this list on CNN.
- If you want to get involved in the conversation and take action regarding gun control, the Brady Campaign website has a Get Involved page, where you can sign up for Brady Action Alerts, join a chapter, submit a tribute, and find contact information for politicians.
- Get more information about mental health advocacy: Visit Mental Health America’s action page.
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Do as much good as you can to try to balance out the bad. Practice random acts of kindness every day. Volunteer with your kids, during the holidays and year round.
