As a single mother of twin boys who are both diagnosed with PDD-NOS (AUTISM SPECTRUM) and ADHD, I have had my share of “almost to the point of having a mental breakdown” moments over the past five and a half years. Some people say when they found out their children had an Autism Spectrum Disorder that they went through the five states of grief. Not me.
I was never in denial, never angry that the life I had planned for them was never going to happen, never tried to bargain with a “higher power” to make my children “typical”. I never became grief-stricken over the loss of the quiet, polite, exceptionally smart children I thought I was going to have. I jumped right into the “acceptance” stage and went into SuperMommy mode. Juggling almost 36 hours of early intervention each week, washing clothes, cooking, cleaning, and caring for my boys – alone – was completely overwhelming. But I did it….. with some regrets. My biggest one was not seeking out support from other individuals who were going through the same thing I was. For those of you facing the most challenging, yet most amazing experience of your life – raising a child with Autism – get support. Seek out those who can understand your grief and frustrations and share with you their joys and accomplishments. You won’t regret it!