Choices: Giving birth with a midwife or an OBGYN?

Most people consider giving birth with an OBGYN to be the "safe" choice, but having your baby with a midwife has gone from a crunchy alternative decision to relatively mainstream now. This cultural shift has come from women wanting more control over their births and becoming more educated about their choices. While midwives are becoming a more popular birth choice among a growing number of women, there are still many misconceptions and fear about giving births with midwives. In this post, we give the basic facts about midwives and information about how to find a midwife in New York City.

News: Kindergarten Crisis Rally, No Idling Law, More Kid Business Closings, New Playgrounds, Dangers of Slings and Co-Sleepers

With the panic of Swine Flu receding, we can go back to our regularly scheduled anxieties, like whether the quality of life for families in New York City is going to suck as the economy declines. With overcrowded schools, family-friendly businesses closing left and right, and the costs of everything from metrocards to taxes going up while salaries and savings disappear, is the recent age of New York's family-friendliness going to disappear also? On the plus side, news about some new playgrounds, and a new law that will hopefully help reduce air pollution. And on the side-lines, furor over a Consumer Reports finding that some parents saw as an attack on attachment parenting.

Lactation Consultants and Resources for Breastfeeding Your Baby

You will hear from many sources how great it is to breast feed your baby and the amazing qualities of breast milk, etc. Beyond the old "breast is best" and all the talk about the qualities of breast milk and maternal bonding, breastfeeding has some other distinct advantages for a New York City parent: breast feeding is green and it will save you lots of money on formula, bottles and other paraphernalia, plus you end up schlepping a lot less, meaning less hassle wherever the city streets take you.

Most people know about the benefits of breastfeeding and plan on breast feeding their baby. Many people have no trouble getting started breastfeeding, but it can be difficult for some and it is easy to get discouraged in the emotional days after birth. Another time that can be a challenge to a mother's commitment to breast feeding is the transition back to work when the idea of pumping at work seems impractical or unappealing or you're just not sure how to swing it all.

While it's okay to stop whenever you want, sometimes just a little help at those important stages can bring the mother and baby through the difficult times and get them back on track for many more months of easy breastfeeding. If one phone call and an hour or two of help with a supportive lactation consultant can lead to many more days of happy and easy breastfeeding, that seems like a good investment.

What the heck is a doula anyway?

Doulas are people you hire to stay with you and support you during your birth. Their role is to help protect the intention you have for your birth, offer practical techniques to help you get through the labor, provide information to you and your partner and offer emotional support. Doulas do not provide medical guidance. We like to think of doulas as very knowledgeable friends who have been to enough births and know when to make suggestions, when to be quiet and when to bring out a little inner fierceness—some people relate the rise of the doula as a replacement for mothers and other female relatives now that families are more spread out (physically and emotionally). There are also prenatal and postpartum doulas who help you before and after you birth.

Beyond Lamaze: Childbirth Education Classes in New York City

[UPDATED: July 18, 2012]

A childbirth education class is exactly what it sounds like, a class either held over a weekend or once a week for a few weeks where you learn all sorts of nifty things about your pregnancy and impending birth.   One of the nice things about birthing classes is that you practice pain coping techniques that you might use in your labor, especially helpful if you are planning to have a natural childbirth. It's like a dry run and can help build your confidence—ok nothing quite compares to the real thing—but try being mildly uncomfortable by holding ice and observing your breath like you do in Birthing From Within classes and you'll laugh and figure out some things out about yourself before the 40th week. Or try the relaxation techniques of HypnoBirthing.

Many pregnant women also make their first mommy friends in their birthing classes since you are meeting women who may live near you and will be having babies at the same time. Birthing classes are an important milestone for dads-to-be also, helping him become connected to the impending birth as well as prepared.

What you'll learn: signs and stages of labor, basic anatomy, pain coping techniques for women and partners, available pain medications and technology, basics of breast feeding, basic newborn care, cesareans and C-section prevention.

Timing: Most people suggest you sign up for a course so that it coincides with your seventh month.

Price: Usually $300-$500 per couple.

We've rounded up childbirth education classes offered throughout New York City.

Top Baby Names for New York City and Tools for Picking a Cool Name

A rose by any other name might smell as sweet, but would it have self-image issues, would it get sick of everyone misspelling its name or that there were three other kids with the same name in it's class? Would a rose want a trendy name, an unusual name, or maybe an unusually trendy name, as is popular now. Picking a baby name can be hard, but the good thing about living in New York City is that just about anything goes. You don't have to worry that giving your child an unusual name will lead to teasing. Actually I don't think kids in New York today know that certain names are unusual...cool, unconventional names are more common than traditional names.

If you are researching baby names in New York check out these sites that can help you pick a good one, find baby name meanings, plus find out which names are top most popular in New York City.

Learning about our world: Sheep Shearing Events and Felt Exhibit

We think of New York City as the "real" world, but then there's that other real world: the one where our food is grown and our clothes are made. We can be fairly isolated from these everyday realities. But even in New York, there are ample opportunities to learn about where things come from.

This weekend is Sheep Shearing Weekend with a couple of events to learn about how wool is turned from a sheep's winter coat into the fabric that makes our clothes and other things. Find a sheep shearing event in the city or drive out for one in the 'burbs. For extra credit check out an art exhibit about felt that takes it to the next step to show how wool is made into felt and many beautiful objects made from felt.

Free NYC Weekend Activities for Kids May 1-3: Cherry Blossom Festival, Wildflowers, Spring Fairs, Free Comic Books & Bikes

Yeah, it might rain, and you've been thinking about getting surgical masks to even take the whole family out to the grocery store...but there is too much going on this weekend to just stay at home. So get the family, grab the Purell--and probably an umbrella or two--and brave the elements for an amazing weekend of cherry blossoms and wildflowers, spring and school fairs, ring swinging, a block party and bike tour, a family festival to end all festivals and free bikes and comic books.

If you're concerned about public places and swine flu, sani-hands is giving out free samples of their sanitizing wipes on Friday, May 1 in Times Square from 10am-1pm, or just make sure to wash your hands frequently.

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