65 Life Skills to Teach Kids at Every Age
We were about half a day into the great pandemic-induced homeschool experiment of 2020 when I lost my cool for the first time. With a full-time work schedule for my husband and myself, plus three kids to teach, how exactly were we going to manage?
I worried about workspace, bandwidth (both our Wi-Fi connection and my own), and common core math problems. And then, I decided to sort of... give up. Sure, we'll do our best to keep up with the schoolwork of three kids in two schools in three vastly different stages of their educational journeys, but we'll also focus on some good, old-fashioned life skills.
Day 1 found me schooling my son on how to make his teen-diet staple, ramen noodles, and a home ec class full of chocolate chip cookies for my younger daughters. I mostly stayed back, and let my girls do the measuring and mixing that I typically like to micromanage. On Day 2 we sewed up the holes in some favorite stuffed animals. By Day 3, my youngest was eagerly awaiting the day's lesson, and that inspired me to reach out to colleagues and friends to put together this list of life skills. Of course, most of these essential skills are worth teaching kids at any time but it feels apt during this forced slowdown. Without further ado, 65 real-life lessons to teach your kids.
Life Skills for Toddlers and Preschoolers
1. You're stuck at home for the foreseeable future, so why not take that diaper off to try potty training.
2. Timely, and topical: Teach toddlers how to wash their hands for 20 whole seconds.
3. Even toddlers can learn how to sort toys and clean up.
4. While you're not going anywhere or in a rush, let little ones pick out their wildest outfits and dress themselves!
5. Fill up the watering can and water the plants together.
Even young kids can help with laundry by trying to match socks. Photo by Sara Marentette
6. Lighten your laundry chores by having kids play "match the socks."
7. Work on learning how to snap, zip, or button jackets.
8. Let them wash their own faces.
9. For preschoolers: Take the time to teach them your phone number and address.
10. Show them how to dial 9-1-1 after discussing what sort of emergency necessitates it.
11. Enjoy the spring air and teach them how to master pedaling a tricycle or bike with training wheels.
A song or even a YouTube video might help kids finally learn to tie their shoes. Photo by Rose Gordon Sala
Life Skills for Early Elementary School Students
12. Make good use of their YouTube obsession by showing them this video that teaches how to tie shoes.
13. Hand over the feather duster and let them chip in with the cleaning.
14. Similarly, teach them to sweep.
Kids as young as kindergarten can wield a vacuum. Photo by Rose Gordon Sala
15. Or, show them how to vacuum.
16. Have them help with dinner prep by setting the table...
17. ...And clean up when it's time to clear the table.
18. Engage them in laundry day by teaching them how to separate the clothes by color.
19. Take the training wheels off and conquer two-wheeled solo bike riding.
20. Teach them how to make a simple sandwich for their lunch ... and yours!
21. Get a little help with garbage duty by teaching them how to take the trash out.
22. Show them how to properly wash the windows or the bathroom mirrors. Most will love to wield the Windex bottle.
Learning a simple stitch will pay off well into the adult years!
23. Share basic sewing skills.
24. Let them fetch the mail.
25. Clear out the piggy bank and roll coins or teach them how to make change. (Bonus math lesson!)
26. Got any analog clocks in your house? Now's the time to learn how to tell time.
27. School them on basic first-aid skills.
Photo by Sara Marentette
28. Set them free with a recipe for no-bake cookies.
29. Let them grate cheese for homemade mac-and-cheese or taco night. Watch those fingertips as they work.
30. Show them how to make a bed.
Photo by Sara Marentette
31. Once the laundry is washed and folded, let the kids put it away.
Life Skills for Tweens
32. Look at a map and teach them how to read it—without the help of Google.
33. Get them a cursive writing book or download some worksheets.
34. Show them how to clean the bathroom, toilets and all.
35. Let them load the dishwasher after dinner.
36. Same goes for the laundry machine! They should be able to take over this chore with some help.
37. Teach them basic kitchen skills using the stove: scrambled eggs are a great place to start.
38. Another tasty option: grilled cheese.
A basic cookie dough is easily mastered by kids. Photo by Rose Gordon Sala
39. Set them loose with a basic baking recipe. They might need some help getting it in and out of the oven, but should be able to measure and mix!
41. Pen an old-fashioned letter to friends or family, then show them how to add a stamp and mail it.
42. Teach them how to do their own hair: simple braids and ponytails should be easy at this age.
43. Show them how to properly wrap a present.
44. Teach them how to create a calendar or daily schedule and help them stick to it.
45. Stocking up on essentials? Let them handle the money and count the change.
Simple knife skills are a handy skill. Photo by Anne Marceaux
47. Banks are still open; why not start a savings account for your kid and teach them to make a deposit.
48. Build some STEM skills and teach them to make an iMovie.
49. Put them to work in the yard: rake leaves or mulch, plant flowers, and pull weeds.
50. Show them how to add their events to your shared family calendar, whether it hangs in the hallway or lives on the internet.
Send them to college knowing how to do their own tie.
Life Skills for Teens
51. Teach them how to tie a tie. My son learned on YouTube.
52. By now, they should be able to sort, wash, and fold the laundry.
53. Take a night off: Let them cook a full meal and clean up when they're done.
54. Teach them how to properly iron out wrinkles.
55. Impart some basic car maintenance skills, like how to check the oil and change a tire.
56. Take them to the gas station when you need to fill up and let them do it.
57. Show them how to plunge a clogged toilet.
58. Teach them how to make and stick to a budget.
59. Help them open a checking account.
60. Teach them how to keep track of important papers ... like their new checking account records!
61. School them on how to write a professional email. No shorthand or emojis allowed.
62. Help them craft their first résumé.
63. Have them memorize their social security number.
64. Power up the lawnmower and let your teen tackle the chore.
65. Nearing 18? Make sure they know how to register to vote!
Photos by the author except where noted